GTJ Interviewed Rachel Ament, author of The Jewish Daughter Diaries!

JewishDaugher-coverRachel Ament is the author of The Jewish Daughter Diaries: True Stories of Being Loved Too Much by Our Moms which is now available on Amazon. Love the book and want more? Rachel A. will be at Sixth & I on July 17th for a book-club style discussion.

RG: The Jewish Daughter Diaries features hilarious and heart-warming stories from well-known female voices about their relationships with their Jewish, and at times eccentric, mothers.  How did you get the idea for the book?
RA: I have just always really enjoyed hearing and telling stories about Jewish moms.  The stories are always so funny and weird and relatable.  I thought there was this awesome universality about Jewish moms that Jewish women should be embracing and celebrating.

RG: Some of the contributors to The Jewish Daughter Diaries (like Mayim Bialik from Blossom!) are very famous.  How were able to connect to them?
RA: I wish I had some cool story where I was hanging out at an awards show and charmed all these celebrities with my wit and grace.  But alas, no such story exists.  I just emailed their publicists!

RG: What was the typical first reaction when you told potential contributors about the topic of the book?  Was there a typical reaction?
RA: They were really excited by the concept.  Many seemed to have been waiting for the chance to tell these crazy stories for years.

RG: Were there stories that didn’t make it into the book that you wish could have?
RA: One writer had a terrific story about her mom’s reaction to boys trashing her Bat Mitzvah party with tampons and menstrual pads.  We ended up going with another amazing story from the same writer but I still feel like there is a hole in the book without this pad-throwing tale.

RG: You also contributed your own stories to the book.  Is this a plot for revenge on your mom for embarrassing you throughout your life (as only a Jewish mother could)?  Did your mom get to approve the stories you chose?
RA: My mom rarely gets embarrassed so that kind of revenge plot wouldn’t work on her!  She is the most ego-less person I know.  I did show her my essay and she was way more concerned about the way I portrayed myself in it than the way I portrayed her.

RG: Any plans to write a sequel about Jewish dads?
RA: Probably not anytime soon.  I think that would be a great book but I’m ready to move onto a completely different theme.  I’m working on a novel right now based on my experiences as a college student in New Orleans.  It will probably be much darker and deranged than this collection!

Rachel Ament is a writer and editor living in Washington, DC. She has been published in the New York Times, The Jerusalem Post, Oxygen, AOL, Hello Giggles, and other publications. She was the head writer for the New Orleans-based film Nola  and her essay will be included in the anthology The Truth About Memoir: How to Write About Yourself and Others with Honesty, Emotion and Integrity, to be published in November.


James Vincent McMorrow: The Irish Bard Plays the Bimah

James+Vincent+McMorrow+JVM18I’m Jewish and a DC native, but this was my first time visiting Sixth & I.  The historic synagogue opened in 1908 and spent 51 years as a Methodist church before being restored and reopened as a 21st century Jewish community center of sorts in 2004.  Today, it plays host to comedians, musicians, and other performers, as often gentile as they are Jewish.

I decided to make my first trip for purely non-religious reasons.  James Vincent McMorrow was playing, an artist described by more than one publication as “the Irish Bon Iver,” and I’m a big fan.  McMorrow went to New York and then Coachella in the days after playing Sixth & I, but on a warm April night, a friend and I saw him in a show more intimate than those could ever be.

Stepping into the building from I street, it felt as though I’d entered any other religious or civic center with a small and uninteresting reception area distinguished only by the presence of a makeshift beer and wine bar.  My friend and I grabbed a drink and walked up the flight of stairs into the main sanctuary.  Stained glass windows lined one wall, and an eerie, hazy light filtered through them into the auditorium from the street.  Numbered pews faced a raised stage with balcony seating providing the feel of a concert venue, but a large menorah flickering to the side refusing to fully complete the image.

Glen Hansard, best known from the movie Once, wouldn’t be a bad superficial comparison for James Vincent McMorrow.  They’re both bearded Irishmen with a deeply emotional, lyrics-driven catalogue.  However, McMorrow’s voice is a tool entirely his own.  Like Justin Vernon, McMorrow lives within the falsetto, but he pushes his voice and volume further than Vernon to both his detriment and his triumph.  In many ways, he reminds me of the other geniuses of the falsetto who have been among my lasting favorites: Jeff Buckley, Andrew Bird, and Freddie Mercury come to mind.

When McMorrow and his three countrymen stepped on stage after a stirring acoustic culmination to opener Aidan Knight’s set, they seemed nervous.  They didn’t go right for their most popular songs.  The house was packed with a young crowd, many of whom had clearly never been to Sixth & I either.  Most concerning of all, the band didn’t seem like they had played together for long or formed much chemistry – a suspicion I later had confirmed.

But then they got a feel for the place.  A light show kicked in behind them.  It grabbed attention, with a textured screen and series of amorphous, slowly pulsing video projections.  The band picked up their pace, and McMorrow began to unleash.  He started hitting his best material, and reminded fans that it’s unbelievable how many solid songs he has on only two albums.  The audience had clearly been won over as well, finally getting in a groove with the alternating pattern of material from Post Tropical, McMorrow’s most recent album, and his first, Early in the Morning.

The band closed out their main set with “Cavalier,” a highlight and personal favorite from Post Tropical, before leaving McMorrow to break out a soulful solo cover of Steve Winwood’s 80’s jam, “Higher Love.”  Applause rained in, McMorrow took his bow, and then performed the shortest encore break in history, barely letting the doors close behind him.  He came back by himself and played “And If My Heart Should Somehow Stop,” bringing his voice louder with each chorus.  The soft-spoken guy, who described himself as doing “a poor job of looking like a lumberjack,” then told a story about feeling guilty for sleeping in and not getting to see much of DC.

The rest of the band came trotting out shortly after for their finale.  They hit their stride immediately, carrying over from where they left off before the intermission, and nailed the Mumford and Sons style build-up on “If I Had a Boat.”  The house (of worship) erupted in applause, and the band said their goodbyes.

I was left behind with images of “eight crazy, happy Irishmen” cruising the monuments on bright red Capital Bikeshares, as McMorrow triumphantly decided on stage they would be doing after the show.  Though he may not be the best at counting — there were only three other people in the band — there’s no doubt he can play, and with a few more albums as quality as his first two, I’ll be there to see him.

Listen to a clip Max recorded from the show:



Videos from the Jewish Guy & Girl of the Year Finalists!

Here are the videos for the Jewish Guy & Girl of the Year finalists! Don’t forget to come out and vote  for your favorite on May 7th at the GTJ May Happy Hour!

The Girls:

Molly G.

Tanya N.

Susan S.

The Guys:

Max B.

Kevin L.

Don’t forget to vote for your favorite at the happy hour!


A Spring Breakdown of Dance Moves

Hope springs eternal. On Saturday, May 3, celebrate (what we hope will be) the end of winter at Spring Breakin’: A Sixth & I Dance Party. To get you in the mood, here’s a list of the best musical and dance numbers sure to put that spring back in your step.

1. The Rites of Spring

This ballet might be a little old school for of some of your tastes, but still, the avant-garde nature of this dance choreographed by Vaslav Nijinsky and performed by Sergei Diaghilev’s Ballets Russes in 1913 created such a sensation that the audience almost rioted in the original performance.

Dance Life Lesson: Commit to your dance moves, no matter how bold and weird they may be.

2. Spring Breakers “Everytime”

Another semi-scandalous piece of musical bravado, Spring Breakers stars former Disney stars Selena Gomez and Vanessa Hudgens (making her first appearance on this list), Pretty Little Liars’ Ashley Benson, and another non-former teen starlet. There’s plenty of wild n’ crazy party scenes in the movie, but this one where James Franco’s character, the rapper/gangster Alien, croons Brittney Spears’ “Everytime” surrounded by the Hudgens and Benson, is one of the most hauntingly beautiful scenes in the movie.

Dance Life Lesson: Don’t let who you were in your past hold you back from tearing it up on the dance floor.

3. Mean GirlsSpring Fling Dance

After being crowned Spring Fling Queen, Lindsay Lohan’s character gives a rallying, yet sentimental speech apologizing for the social crimes she committed and unifying the school by giving everyone a piece of the Spring Fling crown.

Dance Life Lesson: We all deserve to be royals, at least for one night.

4. “Springtime for Hitler” 

In the musical version of the Mel Brooks masterpiece, The Producers, Max Bialystock and Leo Bloom attempt to put on the worst and most offensive musical in Broadway history to profit from the show’s early cancellation. “Springtime for Hitler,” the show’s catchy and outrageous opening number shocks the audience, but winds up being a huge hit anyway.

Dance Life Lesson: You can dance to anything.

5. “Springin’” in the Rain 

In one of the most iconic scenes in movie history, Don Lockwood (Gene Kelly) kisses Kathy Selden (Debbie Reynolds), sending the ecstatic Lockwood into an all-out dance sequence that has him pirouetting in the pouring rain.

Dance Life Lesson: Dance your heart out. (Oh, and girls love a guy who can bust a move.)

6. High School Musical 3: Senior Year “Spring Musical”

Vanessa Hudgens makes her second (and a polar opposite) appearance on this list with the “Spring Musical” sequence from High School Musical 3. Sure, this movie and its previous iterations have enough cheese in them to fill a Doritos factory, but it’s still fun to watch. Not that this author paid to see this movie in the theater or anything.

Dance Life Lesson: Just keep dancing and all of your problems will go away.

7. She’s All That Prom Dance Scene

One of the teen-iest of teen romantic comedies based (slightly) on Pygmalion stars Freddie Prinze, Jr. as the Big Man on Campus who tries to woo the artsy glasses-and-ponytail-wearing weirdo Laney Boggs (Rachel Leigh Cook). In the big finale at Prom, there’s a strange pre-choreographed dance to “The Rockafeller Skank” by Fatboy Slim, which has supposedly been coordinated by Usher (the D.J. because this school has that large of a prom budget apparently).

Dance Life Lesson: Brush up on your dance routines—the Electric Slide, the Cha-Cha slide, the Macarena, and the Single Ladies dance, just for good measure. You don’t want to feel like you didn’t get the memo.



Masa Israel Featured Internship: Grant Writing and Resource Development Internship

The internship is flexible, but Appleseeds Academy needs help in the following areas: Development of new investment channels; conservation and development of partnerships from the business sector, private sector, philanthropic, government agencies and local authorities; mapping the channels of investment and development; company relationship management; contacting organizations, US government agencies, companies and private investors; and writing proposals and supporting the organization’s activities.

Established in 2000 as a business-sector initiative, Appleseeds Academy seeks to connect people, especially at-risk youth and lower-income individuals, with technology. Its mission, broadly, is to provide an equal opportunity to Israel’s socially disadvantaged communities through technological tools and the development of life skills.

Appleseeds Academy specializes in the initiation, management and operation of technological programs throughout Israel, combined with socially oriented training adapted to each sector, population and age group.

The organization carries out its mission by creating cross-sectorial partnerships, partnering with businesses, public sector and other social organizations to create sustainable projects with long-term impact. Appleseeds Academy is a certified academy of multinational high-tech companies such as Intel, Microsoft, Cisco, Google and others.


JWI’s Mother’s Day Flower Project: Give Mom a Meaningful Gift & Help Women in Need

JWI momA Meaningful Mother’s Day Gift for Loved Ones and Women in Need

Guidance, wisdom, unconditional love… a tissue from her purse, a scolding you’ll eventually thank her for… Mothers are constantly giving to us; but what do we give back?  This Mother’s Day, May 11th, give your mom – or all the important women in your life – a gift that expresses how much you value all the mothers of the world.

Jewish Women International (JWI) is making this holiday special for some of the 45,000 women and children spending Mother’s Day in battered women’s shelters. We can make a difference for these survivors of violence while we celebrate the women we love. JWI’s Mother’s Day Flower Project lets you give a gift that honors everything Mom has given you – and the person you have become because of it.

Through the annual Mother’s Day Flower Project, JWI will send bouquets of flowers, as well as beauty products from OPI Products, Inc., to 200 shelters across the United States.

Here’s how it works:

  • You choose an inspiring woman in your life – mother, sister, wife, daughter, friend – and make a $25 donation to JWI in her honor.
  • JWI sends a beautiful card, which will arrive by Mother’s Day, to each designated recipient, stating that a charitable contribution has been made in her honor
  • JWI uses proceeds from the sale of these cards to send beautiful bouquets of flowers and baskets of beauty products to domestic violence shelters on Mother’s Day
  • Your donation funds JWI’s work year-round.

You can buy your Mother’s Day Flower Project cards online at

For more information, please contact JWI at 202-857-1300 or  All gifts to JWI are tax-deductible.


The Digital Age of Dating – GTJ Dating Series with Erika E. (No. 88)

It’s no secret that times are a-changing.  The term “gluten free” is now featured on many menus around town, a flattering (or not-so-flattering) selfie is now the norm for picture-taking (my parents have just adopted this, and it’s honestly hilarious), and the dating game has been turned sideways and upside down.  I’m here to set the record straight on not only how things have changed in the dating world but also how some things should remain the same.

The Past The Present
Boy meets girl at a party.  Boy asks girl for number, and she writes it down for him.  Boy calls girl in three days and asks her out to dinner. Boy meets girl at a party.  Boy hands girl phone and tells her to put her number in it.  Boy then texts girl immediately so she has his number.  Boy maybe texts girl in the next few days to ask her out for a drink.


Comments on the past: It’s simple and straight-forward, but if the boy loses her number, then we have a problem on our hands.

Comments on the present: It’s certainly efficient, but it’s much less personal and endearing.

Erika’s recommendations: It’s more than okay to put someone’s number in your phone when you meet, but I don’t recommend contacting him or her immediately.  Wait until the next day, and follow up with a text saying, “It was great to meet you last night!  I’ll give you a ring tomorrow so we can set up some plans.”  And then actually call!

The Past The Present
SWM seeks SWF for long walks on the beach, strawberry daiquiris, and a lifetime of intellectual conversation. I like to laugh and have fun.  I’m just as comfortable in a tux as I am in jeans and flip flops.  Sometimes I love a night out on the town, but other times I’m just as happy on the couch with a movie.  My family and friends are very important to me.


Comments on the past: It’s simple and easy.  No picture = no expectations.  You have no idea who might respond, though, and it’s hard to weed through the muck.

Comments on the present: First of all, this profile is terrible!  I learned nothing about this person.  Besides that, though, in this day and age, online dating is here to stay, so you might as well use it… and use it well.

Erika’s recommendations: Use online dating, but make your profile and photos stand out from the crowd.  I don’t know anyone who doesn’t like to laugh and have fun!  (If you don’t, well, I’m very sorry.  Hang out with me – I’ll make you laugh.)  For more profile tips, click here.

The Past The Present
If you wanted to know about someone, you asked your friends. If you want to know about someone, you Facebook stalk, Google, follow, and Instagram.


Comments on the past: Sometimes a little mystery is a good thing!  But it’s hard to know whether this person is who he says he is.

Comments on the present: TMI!  While a little online stalking… ahem… researching is good (and normal), some people take it too far.  No need to know the year your date had her wisdom teeth pulled out (2008 for me) or his mileage breakdown on the last six marathons he ran.  Leave something to talk about on the date!

Erika’s recommendations: It’s fine to do some due diligence.  Just don’t overdo it and start obsessing or making assumptions that you don’t know to be true.

What’s the point of dissecting how things have changed?  It’s to show that each time period has its merits.  I love that we live in the digital age, and as long as we use that to our advantage, then we can only benefit.  Happy dating!

erika ettin-49253-3 NewErika Ettin is the Founder of A Little Nudge, where she helps people stand out from the online dating crowd and have a rewarding experience. An archive of all of Erika’s columns is also available.  Want to connect with Erika?  Join her newsletter for updates and tips.





America the Beautiful: Reflections on James and Deborah Fallows’ “American Futures” Collection

AmericanFuturesCOVERSmall (1)The audience arrived early vying for good seats. The crowd was comprised of mostly grey-haired couples. If the people who asked questions were indicative of the majority of the group, many of the spectators had followed the work of James and Deborah Fallow for decades as they documented life and language for the Atlantic both internationally and in the States. The couple took the stage with a smile, accompanied by the night’s interviewer, the Atlantic’s Editor-in-Chief, James Bennett, to share insights from their cross-country travels.

Since last August the Fallows have undertaken a project of national importance. They have piloted themselves around the nation at 2500 feet by propeller airplane to visit America’s small towns and uncover their stories. The small towns that they seek must meet a certain criteria, not merely a low number of permanent residents, but also places typically out of the national spotlight. They land in the small towns of the flyover states and report to rest of us what should be recognized by the whole of us.

The couple apologetically interrupted each other as they eagerly shared their favorite stories from the far-flung cities across the plains and the coasts, spanning from California to Maine, Michigan to South Carolina, South Dakota to Vermont. Their stories gave away their earnest surprise to discover high levels of national pride in every town. Each place also exhibited a go-hung ho attitude that expected and desired solutions for its successes to come from within its population, not from Washington or their own respective state capitols.

Listening to tales of the nation there were trends that stood out, things that as a country we should applaud and issues that we should all work together to overcome. In cities all across the nation there were entrepreneurs vying to not only create businesses that would allow them to remain in the small towns that they loved, but there are business innovators who are changing the economic markets by revolutionizing local industry. In Maine seaports are being reinvigorated, in South Carolina there is tech boom whose creative environment and designs rival that of Silicon Valley.

These places are transforming through collaboration between old populations and new residents and there is a strong desire to retain their younger generations. Change is good, but it comes with its challenges. There are clashes between PFAs (People From Away) and those who were born in the town. There are ideas about a sense of propriety and identity that outsiders are often expected to conform to which is sometimes difficult for Americans from other places and no more easy for immigrants.

In America today, many immigrants are skipping large cities as ports of entry and heading straight to small towns and suburbs. Some places, such as Sioux Falls, South Dakota, are on the map because they have extraordinary refugee integration programs. Economically immigrants are a boon to society but sometimes there arrival is wrought with complications that challenge communities to be adaptive. In many places across the United States ESL (English as a Second Language) classes are taught by teaching English to students via another language, often Spanish. This model is becoming useless in areas where there are more diverse immigrant populations and Spanish may only be spoken by 30% of the population and the other 70% is comprised of native speakers of various languages from across the globe. The schools are experimenting with various teaching models that have been previously underused in this country such as ulpan teaching method, where the instructors only speak the language that they are teaching without any translation into the students’ native language.

“American Futures” presents a country that is adapting to life in the 21st century but is also grappling with its past. Though the Fallows’ reports present a mostly positive view of American life across the country they are careful not to be too Pollyannaish, and with good reason. Many towns are still coming to terms with their violent histories of racism. There are still stark divides in perception of the advances areas have made when residents of different races are asked about their impressions of and experiences in their town as it relates to progress and opportunity.

There is hope for the United States’ future. The large cities tend to overlook small towns but the small towns have big personalities. They are hard workers and patriots, generous and innovative. They may be understated but they are not sitting idly. The entrepreneurial spirit and the imperative to confront problems head on offer lessons that the rest of country would do well to heed. “American Futures” offers lessons on humility and teamwork. Together city and town, large and small, known and unknown, we can advance impressively if we overcome our provincialism to embrace and celebrate our national strengths.

Courtney D. Sharpe is a world traveler who has spent extensive time in the Middle East studying, traveling and working with the Peace Corps. She is a graduate of Northwestern University where she pursued a double degree in International Studies and Religion. 


Interview with Ami Greener,Director of Greener Travel, about his upcoming August Jewish eco-tour of Costa Rica

Swimming in Finca Rio Perla

Swimming in Finca Rio Perla

The interview was conducted by travel and environmental writer Josh Marks.

Josh Marks: What motivated you to start a Jewish Eco Tour of Costa Rica?

Ami Greener: After my IDF service I traveled to Central America and I fell in love with Costa Rica, its natural beauty and its people.

In 2010 I founded Greener Travel, combining my love for the environment and travel, while creating a unique trip that would be fun for Jewish professionals. This summer I’m going to lead my eighth trip there!

JM: What makes this trip Jewish and what makes this trip eco?

AG: The first weekend we spend Shabbat in the capital San Jose, and visit the local Jewish community.  On Friday our group hosts an oneg at the local synagogue, following a unique tri-lingual service!

We get to learn a bit about the local Jewish history, and places such as an Israeli hummus joint in the rainforest. We spend the last weekend on a Jewish-owned eco-farm, Finca Rio Perla, in the Caribbean Highlands.

Zipline Adventure

Zipline Adventure

As a long-time environmentalist, it was important for me to establish Greener Travel as an eco-tour company (having the right family name didn’t hurt either!). Eco-tourism means minimizing the environmental impact on one hand and maximizing the beneficial impact on the communities we visit.

For example, we stay in local, family-owned lodges so the majority of the profits stay and benefit the community.  We work with local guides who grew up in the area and form personal relationships with them. For example, Junior Palmer, a native of Puerto Viejo, invites us to his home for a unique kosher style Caribbean cooking class. Tino, one of our naturalist guides, grew up in the Gandoca-Manzanillo wildlife refuge, and will take us on an unforgettable rainforest hike. We also include an element of volunteering on our tour and in the past we helped a local women’s cooperative farm build a bio-digester. This way I connect our tour to the Jewish tenant of Tikkun Olam — not just taking photos and having fun but also improving the lives of those that we visit.

JM: If a Jewish young professional is considering an organized trip, why would they choose yours?

AG: Our tour is all about the experience! After visiting San Jose, we go white water rafting on the Pacuare River, considered one of the most scenic runs in the world. We also go zip lining, take several naturalist-led jungle hikes, sail the canals of Tortuguero National Park, see 200-pound green turtles lay their eggs on the beach, visit a jungle animal rescue center, learn to make organic chocolate, swim in amazing, secluded waterfalls and experience the unique Caribbean vibe of Puerto Viejo and it’s amazing beaches, eat great food – and there is more!

Pacuare River Rafting

Pacuare River Rafting

What is the biggest concern trip participants have before going?

Participants are concerned by visiting the rainforests for the first time; malaria (non-existent where we visit); personal safety (just like you are alert in any big city in the States, be alert in Costa Rica and don’t carry too many valuables.); not knowing anybody on the trip (by the second day everyone is good friends or friendships begin).

What do past participants have to say about their experience in Costa Rica?

“This trip ignited my sense of adventure, awakened my hunger and desire for exploring the world, and once again opened up my eyes to what matters in life most,” says Faina, who went on the June 2012 trip.

“The perfect mixture of non-stop adventure travel,” says Jenn, who also participated on the trip in June 2012. “Book now with Ami & you won’t regret it! See you on his next trip!”

JM: Why is Costa Rica an appealing tourist destination?

AG: Costa Rica – a country the size of West Virginia, seems to have it all. Amazing beaches. Breathtaking rainforest scenery. A huge biodiversity of animals and plants. And people that are probably the happiest in the world. Couple that with adventure activities such as zip lining, rafting and water sports – and there is something for everyone in Costa. Rica. It’s also an example of a country that made a conscious decision to protect large swaths of the country for the benefit of future generations which allows it to be a prime eco-tourist destination.

Tortuguero Canal Tour

Tortuguero Canal Tour

JM: Can accommodations be made for someone who is observant?

AG: The trip is actually is designed to take account of Shabbat observers. On the first weekend the hotel is walking distance from the synagogue and downtown, and the second weekend we stay on the farm with no activities needing work or transportation. All the places we eat have strict vegetarian/vegan options although the food is not certified kosher.

JM: What is your favorite part about going to Costa Rica?

AG: The rainforest! And Kabbalat Shabbat near the waterfalls in Finca Rio Perla – the best place to appreciate the wonders of this world!

JM: When does the trip take place? When does registration end? How much does it cost?

AG: The trip will take place Friday, August 1st to Sunday, August 10th 2014. Eight days or nine days for those that choose to arrive on Friday. Registration ends July 1st but we have early bird price for those registering before April 17th. The cost of the trip is $1,875 and it includes lodging, transportation, activities as well as most meals. All the information can be found on our trip page.

JM: Anything else you would like to add about why a Jewish young professional should consider going on your Costa Rica adventure?

AG: They will have the experience of their lifetime and will connect with other likeminded Jewish young professionals from DC and all over North America.

JM: What other trips do you offer?

This July we are offering a unique Mountain & Glacier Jewish trip to Alaska. In mid-September we are offering our first Jewish exciting adventure to Trinidad & Tobago. In mid June we are offering a 3-day canoeing Shabbaton on the Delaware River (close to metro areas of New York, Philadelphia and D.C.)


Interview conducted by travel and environmental writer Josh Marks. Josh writes for sustainable design site Inhabitat and blogs about his adventures around the world at Josh’s Travel Blog and about the transition to the sustainable economy at Green Forward.



Love Me Tinder – GTJ Dating Series with Erika E. (No. 87)

tinderAh, dating apps.  Some people love them.  Some people hate them.  Some people have no idea whether to love them or hate them.  Of course, there are many apps out there, including an app for many of the already-popular online dating sites like, JDate, and OKCupid, but the most talked about app these days is Tinder, which caters to the younger, phone-savvy generation (as in, ours).  Keep in mind that most, if not all, of the apps are free, so people will have many different intentions.  Some are just looking for a hook-up and some may want to start a real, meaningful relationship.  The problem?  We don’t know.

How Tinder works: You download the app on your phone (duh), and then you give permission to connect through Facebook to create your (very minimal) profile.  You can upload up to six profile photos and then specify your desired age range and distance from your location.  Then, you scroll through potential matches and click on the heart (or swipe right) if you’re interested and the “X” (or swipe left) if you’re not.  If you and your “heart” person both choose each other, you’ll be notified when this happens, and then you can start in-app texting.

Pros: Easy to use, really fast app, free, seemingly unlimited choices at any time, only first name shown so somewhat anonymous, mutual friends shown, can find people when traveling because it’s always based on your current location

Cons: Solely based on picture and optional profile (more superficial than an already superficial market!), people’s intentions vary and some just play like a game to pass time, many matches do not initiate contact or respond (both men and women), may match with someone who is only visiting the area

If you’re looking for something a bit more serious, then a paying online dating site is still your better bet because you at least know that the people on the site have some skin in the game, in the form of $20 or so a month.  Also, on the traditional online dating sites, you learn a bit more about each person from his/her profile, and thereby his/her ability to string together a complete sentence.  (I don’t know about you, but this “skill” is kind of important to me.)

The major benefit I see to the apps is that they create efficiency.  (I feel this way about speed dating, too.)  Technically, you could match with someone at noon and be on a date by 1 PM.  (Heck – you could be on a date at 12:05 if you live that close.)  From prior articles, you know that I always encourage people to meet in person sooner rather than later because chemistry (the “wild card”) can never truly be determined until you meet in the flesh.  But if you’re looking for that one “true love,” then I’d recommend instead fishing in the traditional online dating pond, where many people make their intentions very clear (as in, the “marriage and children” option on JDate versus the “casual sex” option on OKCupid).

In the end, regardless of what you’re looking for and how you meet, it’s nice that we have so many options today, certainly more than our parents or grandparents did.  Though, I think my mom was onto something in her day… she used to find dates over the ham radio!  The precursor to Tinder perhaps?  Go Mom!  (That’s not how she met my dad, though.  They were next-door neighbors!)

erika ettin-49334smallErika Ettin is the Founder of A Little Nudge, where she helps people stand out from the online dating crowd and have a rewarding experience. An archive of all of Erika’s columns is also available.  Want to connect with Erika?  Join her newsletter for updates and tips.





Top Videos for Passover 2014/5774 (aka Too Many Frozen Parodies)

Dayenu thumbnail The GTJ staff picks its favorite new Passover videos. Feel free to share with others, as well as to post your favorites in the comments below!Don’t forget to vote in the Jewish Guy and Girl of the Year contest!

Let Us Go Ukelele

Six13 – Chozen – A Passover Tribute-parody of Adele Dazim’s Let Us Go

They Tried To Kill Us (We Survived, Let’s Eat!)

Escape from Egypt in this choose your own adventure by the Ein Prat Fountainheads

Passover Prank by AMK Productions

Breaking Bread – Passover Parody

PoCh38 – “All Other Nights” featuring scenes in front of Sixth and I Historic Synagogue and Adas Israel

Jew Direction – “Not Slaves Anymore” Passover Parody of Katy Perry’s “Roar” by Blau Bright Productions

It’s Passover, Grover! by Shalom Sesame

Let It Go: Passover Edition by AishVideo

And, for the sake of completeness, here are some more Frozen Passover Parodies: (1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (8) (9)

See also our compilation from a few years ago.

And here are some more past favorites:

Bubala Please Episode 5 — Passover Munchies

The Maccabeats – Les Misérables – Passover


Masa Israel Featured Internship: Research and Web Development Intern, The International Association of Jewish Lawyers and Jurists

The international association of Jewish Lawyers and Jurists (NGO) is looking for an intern in the fields of International Law, Human Rights, and the fight against Anti-Semitism, Holocaust denial and terror.
Responsibilities include legal and general research that concerns the Association’s agenda; writing papers, prepare briefing and creating PowerPoint presentations; and uploading materials to the Association’s website while assisting in re-writing the Association’s web presence and branding.

The intern’s responsibilities will be highly diverse according to the project currently on the agenda. Preference to people who majored in International Law either at the University or as practitioners.

The International Association of Jewish Lawyers and Jurists, founded in 1969 by three well known jurists: Rene Cassem, a Nobel Prize Laureate, Arthur Goldberg of the United State Supreme Court, and Haim Cohen, Deputy Chief Judge of the Supreme Court of Israel, was established, primarily, in order to further the cause of human rights, to act against Anti-Semitism and the denial of the Holocaust, and to act against all forms of racism manifested against any people. The Association has the status of a recognized NGO in the United Nations and in the Council of Europe, and its representatives regularly participate in various discussions conducted in United Nations institutions and in the Council of Europe. The IAJLJ uses its specialty in Law to promote its agenda and vision. The Association has representatives in many countries and deals with matters that are of interest to the Jewish People and the State of Israel.


How many questions should you ask on Passover?

JSSA Passover Gameboard_Page_1“She died in her sleep,” relayed the voice over the phone.  “After years of suffering… she is at peace, but, now… now I am suffering. Rabbi, can you help me?” I put down the phone and was with the family in under an hour.  That afternoon, I heard fragments of a lifetime of memories…the next morning we returned her body to the earth.

How quickly life can change, and, when it does, JSSA is here to help.  As the Director of JSSA’s Jewish Chaplaincy Services, my team and I work with families facing challenging situations every day.  Some families are able to pay for JSSA’s services and some are not.  Regardless, we are always ready to help.

Two weeks after officiating at the funeral for the family mentioned above, a letter arrived on my desk.  It contained a check for twice the amount of our suggested donation, along with a note that read, “For the next family in need.”  What a mensch!

One ancient sage, Rabbi Tanchum, would purchase double of everything.  When asked why, he explained, “one for me, and one for someone in need.” This kind of generosity is at the foundation of kehillah kedosha, a holy community.  And it is what has kept JSSA’s doors opened for the past 120 years.

This Passover, JSSA is partnering with B’nai B’rith, and other local organizations and synagogues to deliver 500 Kosher for Passover food baskets. For families, individuals with special needs, seniors and Holocaust survivors in need.  As you prepare for your own holiday celebration, consider sponsoring a basket (or more) for $36.  Your generosity will allow a struggling neighbor to celebrate Passover with dignity.

Too often, we hear of clients unable to afford the additional items necessary to observe Passover.  Some even consider buying less in the weeks before in order to afford the more expensive Kosher for Passover items.  Others forgo their medication.  You can help them avoid making these choices by sponsoring a basket or few.  This holiday program relies solely on the contributions from our community.

JOIN US by choosing to sponsor a basket (or few) in honor of your host or guests – send an eCard today,

To extend our thanks to program supporters and to enhance Seder experiences across the metro area, we’re providing some added fun…with Passover BINGO!  This is not just your Bubbie’s BINGO!  With questions like, “Why is sponge cake a popular Passover dessert” and challenges like, “share a modern day exodus story”, JSSA, your local Jewish Social Service Agency, has created a Passover BINGO game for everyone at your Seder.  Together your friends and family will learn more about each other and reflect on story and experiences of Passover.

Hag Sameach (Happy Holiday),

Rabbi James Q. Kahn
Director of JSSA’s Jewish Chaplaincy Services


Marissa Neuman Jachman
JSSA Manager of Annual Giving


Are you a Birthright alumni? Birthright NEXT will help you host a Passover seder!

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERABirthright NEXT is providing some great resources to help you host your own seder!

Been on a Birthright Israel trip?  Celebrate Passover by hosting a NEXT Passover Seder for your friends.  NEXT will give you everything you need, including delicious recipes, up to $10 per person to help cover the cost of food, and a guide to customizing your own traditions.  Sign up today: Passover Your Way.

Even if you’re not a Birthright alumni, there are still great resources on the NEXT website that you can take advantage of.  Check them out here.


GTJ interviewed one of the organizers of the World’s Largest Shabbat Dinner!

The Most Interesting Jew in the World - Screenshot of fundraising clip for White City Shabbat's Guinness World's Largest Shabbat Dinner in theme of Dos Equis beer commercial. Photo credit: courtesy of White City Shabbat

The Most Interesting Jew in the World – Screenshot of fundraising clip for White City Shabbat’s Guinness World’s Largest Shabbat Dinner in theme of Dos Equis beer commercial. Photo credit: courtesy of White City Shabbat


As part of White City Shabbat, Victoria is one of the organizers of the World’s Largest Shabbat Dinner!  Learn more about the Shabbat dinner here.

Rachel: We heard that before you lived in Israel, you were living in DC.  What brought you to DC?

Victoria: I moved to DC in 2011 to get my masters in public administration at George Washington University.

Rachel: Why did you decide to move to Israel?

Victoria: I had come to Israel a few times since I graduated high school, once on a family mission trip in 2005 & once with my mom on a women’s mission in 2011, and both experiences were great but very centered on site seeing and learning about the history of Israel.  When I came to Israel on Taglit in 2012 on a DC community Shorashim bus, the trip had an element of self-reflection that I had never experienced on a previous trip to Israel.  I was forced to confront questions like “What does Israel mean to you?” and “What do you want your relationship with Israel to be?” and when I thought about those and other topics I realized that 10 days was not enough for me to answer those questions satisfactorily.  On the last day of Birthright we were given a presentation about coming back to Israel on Masa and I filled out a card saying that I was interested in possibly returning for a longer Israel experience.

A few months passed and as I was entering my last semester of my master’s degree and trying to decide what I was going to do when I graduated I received a phone call from a Masa representative asking if I was still interested in coming back to Israel.  The call couldn’t have come at a better time and I made the decision that if I was ever going to explore my relationship with Judaism and Israel by living in the Jewish homeland, now was the time. 

Rachel: What is White City Shabbat?

Victoria: White City Shabbat is the portal for Jewish Life in Tel Aviv.  Bringing the concept of Shabbat dinner parties to a wider community, the organization hosts its own private, warm, welcoming, all-inclusive Shabbat meals every month.  White City Shabbat also hosts holiday celebrations and meals, Jewish learning series, beginners learning minyan, and inter-community programming.  To learn more about White City Shabbat visit

Rachel: How did you get involved in White City Shabbat?

WCS logo (1)Victoria: White City Shabbat is one of many programs operated by a nonprofit organization called the Am Yisrael Foundation, which is where I worked as an intern during my Masa program.

While I was doing research on different Masa programs I reached out to a friend of mine, Natalie Solomon, who had made Aliyah recently and was volunteering with a passionate team of young professionals to form new nonprofit organization, the Am Yisrael Foundation, that actually had an intern at the time from one of the programs I was looking into.  After talking with Natalie and learning more about the great group of people she works with and the work they do to build community for the young-professional international community in Tel Aviv, I knew that going on Career Israel and interning with AYF was the right fit for me.

I feel so lucky that I was recruited for this position because it’s given me a chance to see Tel Aviv through the lens of passionate, highly motivated young pioneers who are working tirelessly to improve the city and the community that we’ve chosen to call home.  Even though my internship ended almost 2 months ago, I decided to continue volunteering with the Am Yisrael Foundation and helping them attempt the world record for the World’s Largest Shabbat Dinner.

Rachel: What motivated WCS to host the largest Shabbat dinner ever?

Victoria: It’s actually a funny story, no one really knows who exactly came up with the idea.  People within our organization had been playing around for a while with different ideas to inspire Jewish unity with some type of global Jewish communal effort and that is where the idea to attempt a Guinness World Record came from.  White City Shabbat and Am Yisrael Foundation are led by passionate young professionals who devote their free time to run these programs & we wanted a way to involve Jews from around the world in the incredible work that we’re doing.

Rachel: Who are you expecting to attend the dinner?

Victoria: We expect a lot of diversity in the event’s attendees.  At White City Shabbat we believe that Shabbat is the cornerstone of the Jewish faith and as such has the power to bring people together.  Furthermore, because of its unique demographics of so many young professionals, its mix of immigrants and natives who are both religious and secular, and its overarching atmosphere of openness and inclusivity, Tel Aviv is the perfect city to host an event of this magnitude.

Rachel: When you’re not at the world’s largest Shabbat, where can you be found on a typical Friday night?

Victoria: Since I’ve been living in Israel for the last 6 months, I feel so fortunate that I’m able to celebrate Shabbat with my friends every week.  In the Olim (new immigrant) community here in Tel Aviv we have a saying that your friends are your family, since many of us do not have family living in Israel or if we do they’re far away, and I’ve definitely been living by that statement since I got here.  Every week I either go to a friend’s apartment or to a White City Shabbat event for dinner, and, wherever I am, I know that Shabbat dinner will be filled with people that I love expressing their gratitude and happiness that we are together in Tel Aviv, in the homeland of the Jewish people, being able to share in the beauty of Shabbat.

Rachel: Who is the coolest Jew?

Victoria: I’d have to say my mom.  She converted after she married my dad & even though she wasn’t raised Jewish she embodies Jewish values, like Tikkun Olam & Tzedakah, more than anyone else I know & has inspired me to try and do the same.

Rachel: Finish the sentence: When the Jews gather…

Victoria: we can change the world!

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